Most traditional cultures in the world paid a lot of attention to the vulnerability of new motherhood. In traditional cultures, often the first forty days of the postnatal period represent a healing time. One feels the need to care for the new mother so that she can recover from the growth and birth of her baby. There are different traditions, such as preparing nutritious food, a period of confinement or some kind of body work, ranging from massage to wrapping the mother in fabric. All with the aim of helping the new mother regain her strength and energy. In the past, this used to be tradition in our Western world (like the use of a ‘closing sheet’ for example), but this has been long forgotten. We would like to restore this beautiful, healing tradition.
The ‘Closing of the Bones’ technique
The ‘Closing of the Bones’ is one such technique, whose origins date back to Mexican, South American civilizations. This ritual includes, for example, a massage with warming oils, a bath or yoni steaming. But it’s mainly focused on the nurturing, cocooning use of a rebozo scarf. During the wrapping with the rebozo, an actual physical element of closing the bones occurs. Furthermore, there’s an emotional and spiritual element: the ceremony provides a safe space for the mother to feel cared for and to release emotions related to birth and motherhood.
What does a ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony involve?
We’ll start the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony with a warm herbal bath. If you don’t have a bath, we’ll prepare a vaginal steam bath. Next, we’ll use a traditional rebozo scarf to rock and stimulate your hips and body. Finally, we’ll wrap the rebozo tightly around your body, realigning your bones, abdominal organs and energy systems. You may then rest for a while in the warmth and comfort of the rebozo. In a quiet, meditative state you can experience moments of connection. Only when you feel ready, we will loosen the rebozo and you can relax while enjoying a delicious herbal tea. If you wish, you can share your experiences with us.
What is the best moment for the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony?
Any moment is suitable, if it feels right to you. Postpartum is the time between immediately after birth and the end of our lives. The ceremony can therefore take place at any time after the birth, but it’s a beautiful way to end the first forty days postpartum. If you would like to experience the ceremony in that period, we recommend doing so before you go back to work or start other activities. It’s lovely to celebrate a new beginning around the new moon. Or to celebrate the conclusion of something around a full moon. But you can enjoy the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony any time you are ready.
About the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony
- The technique stimulates blood circulation, which in turn cleanses and renews.
- The technique also stimulates the immune system, helps to strengthen muscles and tissues and can stimulate the flow of breastmilk.
- The ceremony nourishes the whole body, but especially focuses on the pelvic area.
- Our hips support the weight of the spine and head. According to some belief systems, they are the seat of unresolved emotions and trauma, which can be felt on the hips as ‘crystals’. Those ‘crystals’ need to be loosened and released during the session.
- The ceremony is therefore also suitable for concluding a period after a traumatic delivery, however long ago that may have been, in a different way.
- I’ll perform the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony together with doula Lievnat Faber. We are a great team and we both learned the technique from Angelina Martinez, the traditional Mexican obstetrician.
- We will come to your home and take all the time we need. Preferably no children are present during the ceremony so we can focus on you and your needs. The ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony takes approximately 2 to 3 hours.
Would you like to know more about the ‘Closing of the Bones’ ceremony or make an appointment? Please contact me.
Read her story: “I had a traumatic birth and after birth. I thought it would go away with time but it didn’t. I first heard of the “Closing Bones Ceremony” from Oda, who helped me throughout pregnancy and postpartum. 2 years after the birth of my daughter I decided I should do something to help me heal and find closure with birth and the negative feelings that didn’t go away.
Oda and Lievnath came to my home and they created a beautiful ceremony. We talked about my birth story, the house was full of beautiful aromas, the bath filled with warm water and flowers. After the bath, they performed the closing of the bones ceremony with the Rebozos. We ended with a warm drink and I could share how I felt about the experience.
I felt safe, loved and honored.
Thank you Oda and Lievnath for helping me find closure with birth and make peace with my body and mind!”